The adoption process moves very slowly. The wait seems like forever, especially because the wait to have a child started way before the adoption process ever began.
Here’s my sort-of-not-really news. We’ve moved up on the list. In December of 2012 we were #25. By July 2013, we had moved up to #12. Now, in March of 2014 we are #6 on the list. That’s my news. Being a Special Needs adoption, the list isn’t as straight forward as a regular list. For example, if there is something on our “would consider” medical need list that comes up before someone ahead of us, we could jump the queue. The woman at the agency (the sweetest woman in the world) told me that there are two people on the list above us who have specified “girl only”. If by some miracle more boys come up, that means we’re actually #4 on the list.
Hearing the single digit numbers got me excited. Things are moving. There is hope. The conversation with the agency brought me to tears. I can do this! But then reality set in.
Optimistically speaking (I’m trying to be optimistic), the soonest we would be matched would be August or September. That is two full years after starting the adoption process. There is also a chance that we could wait another year before being matched. The long wait also means having to renew our home study, re-do our police, medical and financial checks and re-submit our updated application to Vietnam.
I’ve also just learned that the time from match to travel can be from 6-12 months. This broke my heart. Even if we get our optimistic September match it could feasibly be the following September by the time we meet our child. I’ll still need to get through at least another Christmas, school year, couple of birthdays, Mother’s Days, friends having more babies. There goes my optimism. It’s just so much time.
For all of those positive thinkers out there, I need you. I need your pep talks, your encouragement, your reminders that I CAN do this and that it will be worth it, your positives vibes to match me with a boy so that I can move up the list, your hope that it won’t take so long.