Before “pulling the goalie” the first time, my husband and I had discussed adoption. He was adopted (from Korea), my dad and aunt were adopted (locally in Toronto) and it was something we had both always had in mind when it came to growing a family.
We decided to put the idea of adoption on hold because of the great expense involved. We figured, if we could make a baby for free, that’s probably the better way to start. We can adopt a second child later on.
We also talked about what we would do if we weren’t able to conceive naturally. The answer was adoption. We were both in favour of adoption over gambling with expensive fertility treatments.