I went to my family doctor in July to get my medical forms completed for the adoption. An in-depth physical is required to complete an adoption. I assume they want to make sure you’re “built to last”.
Dr. “T” has been my doctor for a few years now. She has always been “ok”. It is difficult to find a General Practitioner who is accepting new patients, I thought I was lucky to have found a female doctor who works near my home so I stuck with her.
My last visit to that doctor was in July of 2011. I went to see her because I was pregnant. I did the appropriate tests to confirm, booked my 12-week scan and was told to think about where I wanted to deliver. (I yearn for the innocence of that day).
Over the past year, I have lost three babies, been to specialists and had D&Cs at the hospital. All of this “medical” information has been forwarded to my doctor.
When I went for my physical she did not mention anything about the pregnancies. As a routine part of the exam, she asked me when my last period was. I replied “April”. This confused the doctor and she asked for an explanation. That is when I realized that she hadn’t even opened my file. She didn’t remember that I had been pregnant and she didn’t know about the losses and all of the poking and prodding that goes with them.
I was so insulted and so sad. It would have taken her two minutes to flip through my files before I came in.
There had been other issues that contributed as well. She wouldn’t take my husband as a patient. She he listed him as “Caucasian” on the first ultrasound file (she never even asked me about his race – Asian, not Caucasian!). She only accepts cash and writes receipts by hand (not a computer in sight). All of this seems insignificant, but in combination was enough.
I knew it was time for a change.
I was lucky to get a lead on a new doctor from my sister-in-law. A new clinic was opening up just down the street. We were able to sign on together to a family doctor. If the adoption goes through, she will happily help with the process and take the squirt on as a patient as well. The clinic has a great team, modern clean offices, computers and emails! Our doctor is young, kind and really helpful. She has gone out of her way to make things easier for us including just now phoning me at home to clarify something for the form because I was not able to miss work for an appointment. I’m very excited about this fresh start. It is decisions like this that make me feel like I have some control over a situation that otherwise has no control.
In a time that feels so dark, every ray of sunshine really counts.