To apply to adopt internationally, my husband and I were not required to create a profile or write a “Dear Birthmother” letter. In our case, the agency will use the information in our home study and any insight from communications with us to create the best match with a child.
When adopting locally, the process is much different.
To prepare for the A.R.E. (see previous post), my husband and I had to create a profile. We weren’t sure that local adoption was the route we wanted to take, but we didn’t want to turn up empty handed and close a door on ourselves.
Creating the profile was a very interesting challenge. It’s a strange combination of employment cover letter and an on-line dating profile but with way more weight behind it and way more heart and soul.
I have heard from friends about getting photo shoots of themselves rolling in fall leaves and playing in the park to help to create an image of fun, welcoming parents. Being a “just in case” profile, we didn’t want to go as far as a photo shoot (this time). Instead, we went through every photo ever taken of us to find our most “family friendly”, warm, “parent-ish” but also fun, most “ourselves photos. This was a little bit of a challenge but also a heart-warming experience. It was so nice to go through all of our photos, to see all the happy times we have had together and how much we have changed in just a few years. It was a really good reminder of the positive things in my life at a time when life has been feeling negative and full of loss.
We managed to pull together some photos and write up some general information that painted a truthful and positive picture of us as a couple, us as potential parents.
I have to say; seeing it all on paper really confirmed to me that we’ll be great parents. I was convinced by my own words.